I had to sew today. I absolutely had to sew today. And I have very little to show for it -- 12 little pieces of ribbon sewn on a stack of towels. But for this I had to clear a corner of the table to set up the machine. For this I had to empty out several boxes, cursing under my breath, as I wondered where I had put the power cord for the sewing machine. But it was a significant gesture for me, an action filled with promise both because it required sewing, even if only in a temporary sort of space, and because putting new towels in the kitchen cabinet also is an act of promise on the home front as well.
Tomorrow is aide transfer day, a day I have been looking anticipating for a long long time. I thought it would be today, but I learned that this was a misunderstanding. I got the word from the current aide, that it would be Tuesday, although he now denies this. I should not be surprised. I remember the discussion well, but I would say that our soon to be ex care person has a tenuous grasp of facts. I say this remembering how many times we argued last week about whether April 25th had been on Friday, as he insisted, or Monday. But this is the least of it. Suffice it to say that our aide is well meaning and has good intentions. Also let it be known that good intentions are most emphatically not enough.
"He who knows not and knows not that he knows not, is a fool....Shun him."
In short, I can expect that people who grew up with different experiences to know and see the world differently than I. I recognize that what I think of as "common knowledge" might not be at all common for those who grew up in wildly different environments. But I do expect a certain ability to adapt, and ability to listen to explanations and to learn, and sensitivity to our wishes and the reasoning behind them.
I have learned that I do not suffer fools gladly, and the pressure to be kind and considerate and tolerant has been more difficult than I expected.
But it is spring. Beauty is around us. I shall hope for better both from my spouse's next aide and from myself.